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Its been like months since I updated you on my pregnancy. These past months was very difficult for us. We lost our little angel on October 21, just a week before my 30th birthday. He was 14 weeks then,,, yes He.. it was a boy.  No regrets because we know that we did everything we can.  I was hospitalized for 4 days to treat the bleeding. One Sunday morning I pee fresh blood.  Since no doctors available on this day, we decided to stay in bed and rest. Same thing happened on Monday but this time I saw a small blood clot on my undies. I texted my OB and we are advised to do Transvi before meeting her. When she saw the report I was advised not to go home and go straight to the ER because my cervix is open and a hospital bed rest is needed. On my 3rd day of stay the bleeding stops and I was asked if I could try taking a trip to the bathroom but unfortunately that didn't went well. I bleed again and this time the doctor told me that I will be on bed rest for the rest of my pregnancy. Bills are filling up so we decided to continue medication at home. I was doing ok at home.. my mother in law and my husband is taking good care of me. At some point the bleeding stops and that was a good sign. I was on a complete bed rest for a week and that is something very new to me.. Its very uncomfortable to the point that you need assistance on anything that you need to do. I felt like helpless and emotionally weak but the comfort of knowing that all of this is for my baby strengthens me. Just before midnight of oct 20 I felt discomfort, Its like you need to fart but its not getting out.. that stuff of like you need to take a shit out but wont come out. Just to ease the discomfort I am actually punching my fist on the wall . Its emotionally draining. I told my self I'll try to take out the gas once more and used the bed pan. I fart a bit of air and peed a little and that it... after 5 min I felt like something came out and that something is blood and the bleeding continues so they decided to bring me back to the hospital. I felt that my water broke and my baby came out before arriving in the hospital. The thought of loosing the life inside of me is very depressing. I kept on whispering "my baby, my baby". In the hospital I went on a D and C operation. A day after we went home got better day after day.

Life is indeed full of surprises.. Just when your ready to move on BoOm here it comes. Your most awaited gift that only GOD can give.. Just in time for my 30th Birthday. I can't really express the joy I am feeling right now and  I know that my husband shares the same zealousness over our precious little life inside me.

It was after shift when I decided to drop by on a local Generic Pharmacy near our house to buy a Pregnancy test. This is all new to me. I've never seen one and don't know how to use it. Just for curiousity sake since I missed day one of my period. A drop is all I need and lines came out. One is so evident but the other one is so pale and I thought it doesn't count at all. I checked the web for images and that's the only time that I realized that the pale line still counts. Ok this is a big news and I should not be so overly excited about it unless I am 100% sure.. I hid the test to my hubby and I asked him to buy me one. I read that it is best to use morning pee for the test so thats what I did. We both tried it together and this time I thought its only one line.. That so sad, thats the time when I showed him the first test. Oh well I think we should see a doctor to end this confusion. Suprisingly we our wrong there is also a second line in there.. oh my..

as if a job title and salary are the sole measure of human worth..

 21 IRREFUTABLE LAWS OF LEADERSHIP

Chapter 1 – The Law of the Lid 

Leadership ability is the lid that determines a person’s level of effectiveness. The lower the lid, the lower the ceiling on your potential. Oppositely, the higher your lid is, the greater your capacity for
achievement. Your personal and organizational success is tied to the strength of your leadership.

Chapter 2 – The Law of Influence 

The true measure of leadership is influence—nothing more, nothing less. Leadership cannot be awarded, appointed, or assigned. Influence cannot be mandated, only earned. Lack of an official title doesn’t preclude you from leading, nor does having a position of authority qualify you to lead.

Chapter 3 – The Law of Process 

Leaders develop daily, not in a day. Becoming a person of influence is a lot like investing in the stock
market. If you hope to make a fortune overnight, then you’re going to be disappointed. What matters
most is what you do day by day over the long haul.

Chapter 4 – The Law of Navigation 

Anyone can steer the ship, but it takes a leader to chart the course. Leaders see the whole trip in their
minds before they start the journey. They have a vision for their destination, understand what’s
required to get there, and know whom they need on the team to be successful. Leaders keep an eye on
the future, scanning the horizon for indications of which course appears the best. Then, based on what they see, they set the direction for the organization.


Chapter 5 – The Law of E.F. Hutton 

When the real leader speaks, people listen. Within five minutes of observing a meeting, you can pinpoint the key influencer by paying attention to eye contact. Who do people watch after a question has been asked? Whose opinion do they wait to hear? The person they look to is the real leader. People don’t listen to a leader because of the message being communicated; they listen out of respect for the
speaker.

Chapter 6 – The Law of Solid Ground

Trust is the foundation of leadership. When it comes to influence, you can’t take shortcuts, no matter
how long you’ve been leading your people. To build trust, a leader must exemplify competence,
connection, and character. People may forgive occasional mistakes based on ability, but they won’t trust anyone with shoddy character. No leader can break trust with her people and expect to retain influence.

Chapter 7 – The Law of Respect 

People naturally follow leaders stronger than themselves. The less skilled follow the more highly skilled and gifted. The more leadership ability a person has, the more quickly he recognizes leadership—or its absence—in others. In time, people line up to follow those they respect, or else they leave the team to pursue their own agenda.

Chapter 8 – The Law of Intuition 

Leaders evaluate everything with a leadership bias. Great leaders have talent, but they also possess
instincts and other intangible qualities that earn them the right to lead. Their intuition enables them
quickly to size up a situation and take the appropriate action. They’re excellent readers of people and
trends, and they use this knowledge to advance their goals.

Chapter 9 – The Law of Magnetism 

Who you are is who you attract. Good leaders understand the need to recruit people who complement
their strengths, but these are not the people they naturally draw to their side. The leaders you attract
will be similar to you in style and ability. To improve the caliber of your followers, get better yourself, for a team cannot be anything other than an extension of the leader’s personality.

Chapter 10 – The Law of Connection 

Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand. They connect with their followers emotionally before
calling them to action. As a leader, you will gain credibility only when you demonstrate a genuine
interest in the welfare of others. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care

Chapter 11 – The Law of the Inner Circle 

A leader’s potential is determined by those closest to him. Don’t leave the formation of your inner circle open to chance. Find proven leaders who extend your influence and boost morale, delegate
responsibility to them, and never stop investing in their growth and development.

Chapter 12 – The Law of Empowerment 

Only secure leaders give power to others. Such leaders lift up those they lead—giving them resources,
encouragement, and credit. Empowering leaders place a high belief in their people. They see the best in
those they lead, and inspire them to reach their potential.

Chapter 13 – The Law of Reproduction 

It takes a leader to raise up a leader. People cannot give to others what they themselves do not possess. Commit to personal growth, and then pour everything you know into your people. Do that long enough, with enough people, and you’ll develop a leadership culture where talented performers flock.

Chapter 14 – The Law of Buy-In 

People buy into the leader, then the vision. Many would-be leaders mistakenly believe that if their cause is good enough, people will automatically rally around it. However, people don’t follow worthy causes. They follow leaders who promote worthy causes. The leader finds the dream and then the people, but the people find the leader and then the dream.

Chapter 15 – The Law of Victory 

Leaders find a way for the team to win. Victorious leaders share an inability to accept defeat. Losing
seems totally unacceptable to them, so they figure out what must be done to win, and they go after it
with everything at their disposal.

Chapter 16 – The Law of Big Mo 

Momentum is a leader’s best friend. All leaders face the challenge of creating change in an organization, but the job gets much easier with momentum working in your favor. Without momentum, even the simplest tasks can seem insurmountable. But when you have momentum, the future looks bright,
obstacles appear small, and trouble seems temporary.

Chapter 17 – The Law of Priorities 

Leaders understand that activity is not necessarily accomplishment. Good leaders recognize that eighty percent of their productivity comes from twenty percent of their work, so they prioritize their efforts for maximum results. In selecting where to devote their time, leaders ought to consider what’s required of them, what offers the greatest return, and what brings them the greatest satisfaction

Chapter 18 – The Law of Sacrifice 

A leader must give up to go up. Many people want to climb the corporate ladder because they believe
freedom and power are waiting at the top. However, the true nature of leadership has less to do with
perks and more to do with sacrifice. Each time you progress to a higher level of influence, you have to
give up additional rights.

Chapter 19 – The Law of Timing 

When to lead is as important as what to do and where to go. If a leader makes the right move
prematurely, then he will encounter heavy resistance. On the other hand, the right move made too
slowly won’t be effective. It takes the right action, done at the appropriate time, for a leader to find
success.

Chapter 20 – The Law of Explosive Growth 

To add growth, lead followers—to multiply, lead leaders. Leaders who develop followers can only grow their organization one person at a time. But leaders who develop leaders multiply their growth, because for every leader they develop, they also influence all of that leader’s followers.

Chapter 21 – The Law of Legacy 

A leader’s lasting value is measured by succession. Leaders who leave a legacy take a long view of the future. Seeing beyond their lifetime, they prepare for the organization to sustain itself independent of their involvement. In doing so, they craft a leadership culture in which influential leaders are spread
throughout the ranks of the organization. Legacy-minded leaders refuse to see themselves as
permanent fixtures in the organization. As such, they intentionally seek to be replaceable—training
others to carry the torch after they depart.

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